Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Rejection Update!
Rejection?
Why does rejection occur?
Date: 3/18/2009 7:25:58 PM ( 5 d ) ... viewed 34 times
Date: 11/10/2008 13:38:47
Understanding Rejection !
We are born into this worldly environment which chooses favorites based on certain particular qualities...
"Everyone knows some form of rejection in life... Rejection is based on the imperfection of mankind and the guilt of or pride for certain desired qualities!" a True-ism
It all starts in the eye or the ear of the rejector... They will tend to gravitate toward certain commonly misconceived qualities; as to what makes for a better person! Some is due to sheer ignorance, other is when predigest creeps in, as a form to ensure the position, of a perceived superior person(s)... Of course truth dictates that most all, if not every one of the scenarios are just a control technique... It has been used to instill the view that some people are just "Better" Than others else! Like Wealth, or Talent, or Physical / Mental abilities, or Class, or Race, or even some Social/ Religious standing!
If we could be perfectly honest, {which seems to be nearly impossible for most people}, we would learn to look upon the heart of another and not just the outward appearance... Then to not be selective and judgmental; here is where most people just give in to the worldly system... HUH! Sad but true!
The largest group of people {98%} in the world fall outside the so called group of " Pretty, Perfect or Beautiful" people! The rest of us, the 98% tend to go through life believing that we are worthless, or unlovable, or unacceptable, or just don't fit this mold!! Which is a complete lie; because if for some reason all the so called "Pretty" people just dropped off the face of the earth one day; everything would still go on, because the 98% have more than enough to continue life, Perfectly!
The worst fate is that many of the worlds, 98% never seem to understand there is really nothing wrong with them... It is a control comparison thing!! Here is where most people find themselves today, going about rejected and suffering day to day based on a false premise; that only the perfect are successful! Guess who made that up! Yep the 2% crowd!
BTW: It is not how cute you look, it is who you are inside that counts! Seek to be the best person possible, based on the GOD given talents and abilities you can use to help others find peace in their lives!!
That is why there are so many rebels in the world... They go around in a maze of ignorance questioning everything and not accepting the real worth of the individual! Therefore they continue the system of rejection and guilt... Because they have accepted the true belief of the system's false judgment and control... Then if and when they do receive any success or acceptance; it is doubted or questioned out of existence! What a vicious cycle of grief we weave for ourselves!!
The worse of this thought is that during times of trouble or grief people even blame GOD, for their sad estate or circumstances!! Thus this attitude of rebellion and bad behavior tends to alienate others and push them to defend the very system that holds them captive and breeds more rejection... It is some what like having a festering sore, which you keep picking at and do not allow it to heal, it is always there with more pain!
"Remember most grief people bring upon themselves!" a True-ism
We need to learn that; Life is not a completion, rather it is meant to be a shared event... You can never win in a system where you (the the lower 98% or controlled ones) would dare to compare themselves, to those who measure themselves by their own Egos... (the upper 2 %)
The real hope and theme is to have everyone come to learn that they are loved for who they are... It should be based on a system where people help others to succeed, which then results in our succeeding as well. The more we build up others, Then more we really help ourselves!! Here is one of the secrets of the universe!!
The secret is to get beyond yourself and not become engulfed by the many systems in the world today... There are many detours that lead to dead ends! If only we could hear the testimonies of the millions of souls who die each day and pass on into Eternity; they could tell you of the many wasted days and idle pursuits they had engaged in!!
The final analysis is that no one wins in any of the world systems!!
No matter how you live your life there is always someone who will not agree or accept your views...
Therefore when you come under attack, find out what the reasons are and act accordingly!!
Defensiveness is defenseless; when you are criticized for doing something wrong and it is valid. a True-ism
Therefore any defensiveness on your part is at best just a rationalization yet at worse a lie or falsehood!!
This is where so many people come to situations of denial and rejection in their lives... Thus you must some to learn not to become defensive when your short coming are brought forth! Beware: Because once you let your emotions rule the situation, you have just about lost the battle for reason and generally will destroy any credibility you may have had!
While most of the systems of the world are very influential, you need not respond to these things that only embroil and cause more pain and suffering... Address the truth and seek to clarify the situation!
When personal confrontations occur respond by looking out for the other persons needs and character... While you are of course personally responsible for your own character, it does not do any good to try to defend the indefensible or attack another's character!
The world and Satan will try to get you to focus on you rights instead of your responsibilities...
" Anytime a nation, a group or even individuals focus upon their so called rights, at the exclusion of their responsibilities, they are on the path of defeat! No culture can long withstand any type of self-centered orientation... " Victory over Darkness 1990 by Dr. Neil Anderson
We are all only responsible for what we did... Don't try to play the role of being someone's conscience, that is for GOD! When you attempt to play the role of the Holy Spirit; or the Conscience in another's life you misdirect the battle from GOD toward ourselves...
BTW: We are ill equipped to play GOD or direct other people lives by attempting to direct their conscience!! Just another Secret of the Universe folks!
You can hold people accountable for their actions but you should never denigrate their character! Try to attempt to express your desires without judging someone! When you express your wants or emotional needs with another, try to change any "you" accusations to an "I" message... This way your non judgmental approach allows the Holy Spirit to deal with their conscience! The other person is now free to respond to your need instead of becoming defensive against your attacks!! What a plan, now just put this into use in your next personal defensive encounter...
Remember most rejection is due to improper mind set or poor personal attitude, plus the personal desire to play God, which is an attempt to direct other people's lives or at least to try to cover one's own faults!! Where are you Friend?
Why does rejection occur?
Date: 3/18/2009 7:25:58 PM ( 5 d ) ... viewed 34 times
Date: 11/10/2008 13:38:47
Understanding Rejection !
We are born into this worldly environment which chooses favorites based on certain particular qualities...
"Everyone knows some form of rejection in life... Rejection is based on the imperfection of mankind and the guilt of or pride for certain desired qualities!" a True-ism
It all starts in the eye or the ear of the rejector... They will tend to gravitate toward certain commonly misconceived qualities; as to what makes for a better person! Some is due to sheer ignorance, other is when predigest creeps in, as a form to ensure the position, of a perceived superior person(s)... Of course truth dictates that most all, if not every one of the scenarios are just a control technique... It has been used to instill the view that some people are just "Better" Than others else! Like Wealth, or Talent, or Physical / Mental abilities, or Class, or Race, or even some Social/ Religious standing!
If we could be perfectly honest, {which seems to be nearly impossible for most people}, we would learn to look upon the heart of another and not just the outward appearance... Then to not be selective and judgmental; here is where most people just give in to the worldly system... HUH! Sad but true!
The largest group of people {98%} in the world fall outside the so called group of " Pretty, Perfect or Beautiful" people! The rest of us, the 98% tend to go through life believing that we are worthless, or unlovable, or unacceptable, or just don't fit this mold!! Which is a complete lie; because if for some reason all the so called "Pretty" people just dropped off the face of the earth one day; everything would still go on, because the 98% have more than enough to continue life, Perfectly!
The worst fate is that many of the worlds, 98% never seem to understand there is really nothing wrong with them... It is a control comparison thing!! Here is where most people find themselves today, going about rejected and suffering day to day based on a false premise; that only the perfect are successful! Guess who made that up! Yep the 2% crowd!
BTW: It is not how cute you look, it is who you are inside that counts! Seek to be the best person possible, based on the GOD given talents and abilities you can use to help others find peace in their lives!!
That is why there are so many rebels in the world... They go around in a maze of ignorance questioning everything and not accepting the real worth of the individual! Therefore they continue the system of rejection and guilt... Because they have accepted the true belief of the system's false judgment and control... Then if and when they do receive any success or acceptance; it is doubted or questioned out of existence! What a vicious cycle of grief we weave for ourselves!!
The worse of this thought is that during times of trouble or grief people even blame GOD, for their sad estate or circumstances!! Thus this attitude of rebellion and bad behavior tends to alienate others and push them to defend the very system that holds them captive and breeds more rejection... It is some what like having a festering sore, which you keep picking at and do not allow it to heal, it is always there with more pain!
"Remember most grief people bring upon themselves!" a True-ism
We need to learn that; Life is not a completion, rather it is meant to be a shared event... You can never win in a system where you (the the lower 98% or controlled ones) would dare to compare themselves, to those who measure themselves by their own Egos... (the upper 2 %)
The real hope and theme is to have everyone come to learn that they are loved for who they are... It should be based on a system where people help others to succeed, which then results in our succeeding as well. The more we build up others, Then more we really help ourselves!! Here is one of the secrets of the universe!!
The secret is to get beyond yourself and not become engulfed by the many systems in the world today... There are many detours that lead to dead ends! If only we could hear the testimonies of the millions of souls who die each day and pass on into Eternity; they could tell you of the many wasted days and idle pursuits they had engaged in!!
The final analysis is that no one wins in any of the world systems!!
No matter how you live your life there is always someone who will not agree or accept your views...
Therefore when you come under attack, find out what the reasons are and act accordingly!!
Defensiveness is defenseless; when you are criticized for doing something wrong and it is valid. a True-ism
Therefore any defensiveness on your part is at best just a rationalization yet at worse a lie or falsehood!!
This is where so many people come to situations of denial and rejection in their lives... Thus you must some to learn not to become defensive when your short coming are brought forth! Beware: Because once you let your emotions rule the situation, you have just about lost the battle for reason and generally will destroy any credibility you may have had!
While most of the systems of the world are very influential, you need not respond to these things that only embroil and cause more pain and suffering... Address the truth and seek to clarify the situation!
When personal confrontations occur respond by looking out for the other persons needs and character... While you are of course personally responsible for your own character, it does not do any good to try to defend the indefensible or attack another's character!
The world and Satan will try to get you to focus on you rights instead of your responsibilities...
" Anytime a nation, a group or even individuals focus upon their so called rights, at the exclusion of their responsibilities, they are on the path of defeat! No culture can long withstand any type of self-centered orientation... " Victory over Darkness 1990 by Dr. Neil Anderson
We are all only responsible for what we did... Don't try to play the role of being someone's conscience, that is for GOD! When you attempt to play the role of the Holy Spirit; or the Conscience in another's life you misdirect the battle from GOD toward ourselves...
BTW: We are ill equipped to play GOD or direct other people lives by attempting to direct their conscience!! Just another Secret of the Universe folks!
You can hold people accountable for their actions but you should never denigrate their character! Try to attempt to express your desires without judging someone! When you express your wants or emotional needs with another, try to change any "you" accusations to an "I" message... This way your non judgmental approach allows the Holy Spirit to deal with their conscience! The other person is now free to respond to your need instead of becoming defensive against your attacks!! What a plan, now just put this into use in your next personal defensive encounter...
Remember most rejection is due to improper mind set or poor personal attitude, plus the personal desire to play God, which is an attempt to direct other people's lives or at least to try to cover one's own faults!! Where are you Friend?
